The TED* Letter™
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The TED* Letter is a free monthly newsletter that is sent out via email. This is
where you will find tips for applying the principles of TED* (The Empowerment Dynamic)™. By transforming our orientation from Victim to Creator, we make our relationships healthier, one by one, and gradually, by extension, we help make the world a better place for all of us.
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I just wanted to let you know that your TED* Letter really touched me this month. I have been working on letting go of very old and deep emotional injuries and familial issues (dating way back to my formative childhood years). Your ritual is perfect for what I intend to do. I will be writing letters to my mother and father and, since they are both deceased, will burn them with some ceremony, knowing that the intent will be carried to them and the act of forgiveness will free all of us from an old and festering wound. Thank you for providing the incentive and the method I’ve been searching for to continue (and hopefully complete) my healing process. I particularly like the idea that forgiveness is giving up the idea of a better past. My childhood was violent and traumatizing in many ways. I have not been able to follow through with any real forgiveness (despite numerous attempts) as I was unable to reconcile the act of forgiving with the act of accepting/approving their actions. I now see that they are separate. I do not have to approve of what happened, merely accept that it did happen and cannot be changed. I also need to accept that the abuse that transpired in my life (the Persecutor) has in fact helped mold and create the person I am today. I have, I believe, made the shift into seeing my parents as Challengers (instead of Persecutors) who have, by their actions, created my strong tendencies to nurture and to love deeply. I value my children and honor them as individuals. I may not have had such a profound desire to parent this way if I had not been Challenged to do so. Yes, I was victimized as a child. But I do not have to BE a Victim in my adult life anymore. I have broken the cycle of abuse and can now own my response as a Creator.
With my sincere thanks,
Debbie
